🕊️ Careful What You Wish For

We often get exactly what we wish for — just not in the form we expected. Every desire carries consequences, both seen and unseen.

Take winning the lottery. Everyone dreams of it, but only a few numbers align. We keep playing, chasing that vision of freedom, and sometimes end up bankrupt instead. What we wanted was security; what we received was a lesson.

It’s not only the gamble we take on future plays — it’s also about how clearly we define what we’re wishing for. When we make a dream, a wish, or a goal, we need to be as specific as possible. Saying “I want to win the lottery” is broad. What we really mean is “I want to win with all the numbers that align.” Yet even then, we must be mindful of what comes next. If we did win, would we still be healthy? Would our relationships survive sudden wealth? Could our finances — or our character — withstand the pressure that comes with success?

As humans, we don’t have the capacity to foresee every outcome attached to our wishes. We make choices based on hope, not foresight. The same happens in relationships — we wish for marriage, not realizing it might one day mean divorce, loss, or hardship. Our intentions are sincere, but our predictions are imperfect.

And this doesn’t only apply to marriage. When we wish to have children, we often say, “I want to have children,” without realizing what that truly entails. We imagine joy, growth, and love — but life doesn’t always follow that script. Our child may become ill, an accident may occur, or we may face painful challenges like custody or parenting-time battles that stretch on for years. What we once saw as a simple wish becomes a complex reality, filled with both beauty and difficulty.

That’s why flexibility and creativity matter so deeply. Life rarely delivers our dreams in the packaging we imagined. When what we wished for finally arrives — in a different form, with new challenges — our adaptability determines whether we thrive or crumble.

Which road would you take?

But flexibility alone isn’t enough. We also need creativity — the ability to reimagine what’s in front of us. If we’re given something that doesn’t quite work, what can we do to make it work? How can we bring a solution to life where none seems possible?

This is where mediation and coaching become invaluable. Both invite us to slow down, reflect, and explore new paths forward. They teach us how to pivot, how to stay open-minded, and how to align our intentions with realistic, evolving outcomes. Our intentions may start pure, but as the saying goes, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. So the question becomes: how do we turn our good intentions into something sustainable — something that truly works?

That’s the art of growth, and the heart of mediation itself: learning how to adapt when life delivers what we asked for… just not in the way we expected.

Thank you for reading Careful What You Wish For.